BDSM sessions in Sydney with a professional dominant

Booking

It can be scary booking a professional, I understand!

The first step is reaching out, and I will have a couple of questions for you to answer to make sure your interests and my expertise overlap.

Your safety is of the utmost importance, and in the very least I hope to get your heart racing, so if you have any information that I need to know to make it a safe experience for you, this is when you need to communicate those to me. This can include accommodations such as accessibility requirements, or medical conditions or medicines that could impact your physical response during a session.

I try to make clear what I provide, but listing every kink that I cater to would not make for an easy read, so it works really well if you have an idea of what you are after and we start there. If you want to have a guided exploration of the most common kinks and BDSM activities, because you don't know, well, that's great! It would be my absolute privilege to take you on a kinky tour of your body and carefully figure out what makes you tick.

Once you've paid a 20% deposit, we can have a 15min video call to say hi and break the ice. This should be enough for you to get a feel for who I am, and give me some assurance that we can make magic.

My favourite scenes are when I can help someone experience something new and deeper. Revelations and awakenings bring me immense joy. Whether its trying something new or scary or learning to trust and surrender again, my constant feedback is how safe they felt in my hands.

Booking a session with me means that we can dedicate time together to create something beautiful with your body and mind.

Negotiation

After our call, we start earnest negotiation, and discussing what the scene will look like. Ideally we discuss what could happen, and the tools at my disposal that may be applied. If you need more detail to feel safe, we can go into deeper detail, I am comfortable in keeping you on your toes, or giving you that comfort of knowing exactly what is going to happen.

In parallel, we start looking for a date and time to get together. Depending on the venue, I may need to request an additional deposit to secure the space. I use a variety of dungeons, and we will decide on the venue based on your needs and the anticipated activities.

If you chose Fly me to you, this could also be a hotel or dungeon local to you.

On the day

If we negotiated a coffee prior to the session, we will meet at a cafe local to the dungeon, or spend some time casually in the dungeon to put you at ease, and make sure we are still on the same page with regards to what we negotiated, and to set intentions. During this time, there is no protocol, just common sense and manners, we are getting ready to play, but aren't there yet, so you can relax a bit and shake off the outside world.

Play

As part of negotiations, we will agree on a ritual to help transition your body and mind into my space. This also makes it abundantly clear when we start. The protocols and rules we discussed are now enforced. What happens next, oh, I hope it is your deepest darkest desires.

We will also have a ritual to end the scene, so it's abundantly clear when the play rules no longer apply.

Of course, and this is of the utmost importance, you can end the scene at ANY time. Your consent and safety are of paramount importance to me, if you want to, or need to, we stop.

You can end the scene at any time.

Regardless of how and when we stop, there will be at least a 20 minute period reserved to debrief, and provide limited aftercare. What does debriefing look like? It's an opportunity for us to reflect on the scene, what went well, what didn't and what you want more of next time. I strive for perfection, so any and all feedback is welcome. Should you require additional aftercare, such as extended cuddles, I offer that as a discounted service that can be added on to a session. This must be negotiated in advance.

After

Although extended contact is not part of our session, I will check in a day or two after to make sure you are okay. Your wellbeing is very important to me. This is also a great time for any additional feedback, and to start booking your next session!

Additional information

You may find the following of interest for describing what play you are after, this list is by no means exhaustive, but it has a high overlap with my skills and common play.

You can explore the full Types of play Captain offers.

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More about Captain.

Pronouns. They / them.
Neurodivergence. Autistic, ADHD.

Philosophy.

I believe that we are all equal, and therein lies the beauty of complete submission. My aim is to leave anyone I interact with better off than before.

I like using pain as a tool, but the end goal is pleasure, unless it is for punishment or training. I'm acutely aware that the role of a Dom can be used as veiled abuse, and I find that unacceptable. I seek out play where we collaborate for a positive outcome only.

Origin and practice.

I grew up doing things that people described as "kinky," including self-suspension in rope. I only really understood that kink was a formal community in my early twenties.

My play started raw and very organic. It was sensory seeking. As an autist, my experience of kink often rests on a deep empathy for my submissive rather than my own physical experience. Crafting an experience that has an impact on my submissive is key to my enjoyment, and I am eager to apply any skills or techniques required to achieve those goals.

I relish learning and growing. You will often see me at courses and workshops revisiting skills. Over the last 20+ years, that raw play has been supplemented with technical mastery. I admire practitioners like Midori, Mistress Tokyo, and Mistrix Cleo Kali.

How I top.

I have a very practical view of D/s and topping and bottoming, and how they can intertwine across what people initially see as boundaries. As much as I don't enjoy submitting, there are many things I enjoy receiving. This brings a unique perspective to sessions.

One of my favourite sessions included tying and partially suspending myself, and not letting any rope touch the brat who had begged me for weeks for the rope session. She recounted it as both torture and entertaining.

Thanks to my analytical brain (read: AuDHD), I can find and hit limits quickly and brutally. I can exact the pain of a hundred needles with one, or hit exactly the wrong nerve in humiliation. It takes a lot of trust for me to flow freely like that. My first rule is that mental and physical health are sacrosanct under my stewardship. I therefore start very slowly, which lends itself to first-time players or people hesitant to explore. There is a special pleasure when someone who resisted starts to open up, surrender, and completely submit.

I've had my own share of trauma along the way, and I'm eternally grateful for those who were patient and persistent with me through my healing. That gratitude informs how I hold space for others.

Types of play.

My topping ranges from playful to serious to genuinely formidable. You meet the careful, measured Captain first. We go at a pace I'm comfortable taking you. When trust is built, I want to push you, help you expand your feeling and your knowledge of self. If you stick around long enough, you will see me in top/dom space. I'm told my eyes change, and I've yet to meet a brat that doesn't back down in that moment. Play could include:

Rope and restraint +

Floor work, suspension, intricate binding. Rope is my first language.

Impact +

The full spectrum: flogging, caning, bastinado, and more. I can calibrate from playful to severe.

Bondage +

Rope, leather, latex, pallet wrap. Restraint in whatever form serves the scene.

Sensation and edge play +

Needle piercing, hook suspension, breath play, sensory deprivation and over-stimulation, temperature play (hot and cold, wax). Blood play where trust allows.

Psychological dominance +

Power exchange, humiliation, degradation, verbal domination, orgasm control, chastity (device or protocol), control. The mind is often the most vulnerable place.

Ownership and service +

24/7 dynamics, collaring, protocols, domestic service (cleaning, cooking, rituals), foot worship and body service.

Financial domination +

Monetary control and tributes as expressions of power exchange.

Roleplay and scenarios +

Interrogation, punishment protocols, pet play, JOI (jerk off instruction), guided stimulation, degradation play, training and conditioning.

Worship play +

Being worshipped as a deity or superior being.

Watersports +

Golden showers or other fluid play.

Furniture and object use +

Using submissive as furniture, decorative objects, and similar.

What I will not do.

I will not have contact with minors in any capacity.

I will not engage in actual non-consent. Consensual non-consent (CNC) and roleplay resistance are completely different from real non-consent, and that line is absolute.

I will not allow drugs or intoxication during scenes. Clear consent and presence matter.

I will not involve third parties without full, explicit negotiation and agreement from everyone involved.

I will not willingly break the laws of the state or territory in which I practice.

I will not engage in combative or abrasive communication outside of negotiated scenes. We are in this together. If you turn our interaction into you versus me, I will disengage and block you.