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Pronouns. They / them.
Neurodivergence. Autistic, ADHD.

Philosophy.

I believe that we are all equal, and therein lies the beauty of complete submission. My aim is to leave anyone I interact with better off than before.

I like using pain as a tool, but the end goal is pleasure, unless it is for punishment or training. I'm acutely aware that the role of a Dom can be used as veiled abuse, and I find that unacceptable. I seek out play where we collaborate for a positive outcome only.

Origin and practice.

I grew up doing things that people described as "kinky," including self-suspension in rope. I only really understood that kink was a formal community in my early twenties.

My play started raw and very organic. It was sensory seeking. As an autist, my experience of kink often rests on a deep empathy for my submissive rather than my own physical experience. Crafting an experience that has an impact on my submissive is key to my enjoyment, and I am eager to apply any skills or techniques required to achieve those goals.

I relish learning and growing. You will often see me at courses and workshops revisiting skills. Over the last 20+ years, that raw play has been supplemented with technical mastery. I admire practitioners like Midori, Mistress Tokyo, and Mistrix Cleo Kali.

How I top.

I have a very practical view of D/s and topping and bottoming, and how they can intertwine across what people initially see as boundaries. As much as I don't enjoy submitting, there are many things I enjoy receiving. This brings a unique perspective to sessions.

One of my favourite sessions included tying and partially suspending myself, and not letting any rope touch the brat who had begged me for weeks for the rope session. She recounted it as both torture and entertaining.

Thanks to my analytical brain (read: AuDHD), I can find and hit limits quickly and brutally. I can exact the pain of a hundred needles with one, or hit exactly the wrong nerve in humiliation. It takes a lot of trust for me to flow freely like that. My first rule is that mental and physical health are sacrosanct under my stewardship. I therefore start very slowly, which lends itself to first-time players or people hesitant to explore. There is a special pleasure when someone who resisted starts to open up, surrender, and completely submit.

I've had my own share of trauma along the way, and I'm eternally grateful for those who were patient and persistent with me through my healing. That gratitude informs how I hold space for others.

Types of play.

My topping ranges from playful to serious to genuinely formidable. You meet the careful, measured Captain first. We go at a pace I'm comfortable taking you. When trust is built, I want to push you, help you expand your feeling and your knowledge of self. If you stick around long enough, you will see me in top/dom space. I'm told my eyes change, and I've yet to meet a brat that doesn't back down in that moment. Play could include:

What I will not do.

I will not have contact with minors in any capacity.

I will not engage in actual non-consent. Consensual non-consent (CNC) and roleplay resistance are completely different from real non-consent, and that line is absolute.

I will not allow drugs or intoxication during scenes. Clear consent and presence matter.

I will not involve third parties without full, explicit negotiation and agreement from everyone involved.

I will not willingly break the laws of the state or territory in which I practice.

I will not engage in combative or abrasive communication outside of negotiated scenes. We are in this together. If you turn our interaction into you versus me, I will disengage and block you.